The next time your small child throws a temper tantrum, try giving a hug instead of a lecture. You might be surprised at how effective a hug can be in quieting a child in the midst of a meltdown.
Hugs can defuse a child’s hurt or anger, making it easier for him or her to listen to what you have to say.
Once calm, your child can take part in a larger discussion about the problem and his or her behavior. Children do better when they feel secure and loved, no matter what.